Will Everyone Agree

My mom is really good, and she helps me a lot. But on some things I disagree with her. I don't think you can spoil a newborn baby, and feel strongly about that. I just don't feel you can spoil a newborn. The only thing that Jacob should have is all the loving he can get from everyone. My mom tells me I shouldn't pick Jacob up when he cries, but I won't let him cry very long. I tell my mom that time changes, she raised seven kids and out of all that, I've learned somethings too. I want to know how it feels to take care of Jacob myself.

Baby Is Much More Active

Jacob likes to feel and chew on things. He knows different textures, and if its coarse, he doesn't like to hang on to it. He likes his little teddy bear Jason and I bought him when he turned two months, he likes them because they're so soft. Jacob stands his head up by himself for a long time, then he collapses. Then I set him up again. When he gets tired, he starts to tilt himself next to the pillows on his sides. He entertains himself for a longer time now. He's such a cheerful and joyful baby to the both of us. He gives us nothing but happiness in our lives. I hope this never comes to an end. I'm enjoying everyone second of it.

How Do Mom's Parents Feel

Jacob and I live together with my parent's. My mom is the one with the firm opinions in our family and so does my twin sisters. If anything I think that its always important that Jason is apart of Jacob's life. I know it can be difficult for everyone in my family and Jason's family, but I know that we could work everything out. I stay with my parents and Jason would sometimes come over to visit. I can't really go over to his house because I'm so busy staying after school and working on finishing contracts. Jason is still in school so that's really good. It lets me know that at least he is trying.

When Should You Call Your Doctor

I would call Jacob's doctor when I don't know what to do and because there's something wrong with him. He might get upset if I overdo it- mine did once, but better safe than sorry. Sometimes if I'm worried but don't think there's much wrong with him. He just might be tired or want mommy and daddy's attention on him. As his mom I would check with another mom before I call the doctor, because it helps to know someone that already has a child and knows a lot more about baby's then I do. It's wonderful to always ask someone who's been there and done it all.

Health Care for Your Baby

Jacob has a cold now. I get scared because last time he got sick of the same thing. We had taken him to our clinic and had his doctor see what was going on with him. When he gets sick we can tell because his eyes look real weak and starts tom wonder around a lot. Now that he has a cold, I could also tell because of the snot and the weak eyes as well. but he still smiles even when he's really tired, all he does is he stays happy. Jacob doesn't really get sick easily. When he was born he couldn't breathe clearly he always had a problem in his lungs or something. That caused him to breathe really fast and not get enough oxygen in his system that he needed. I'm just glad that it's all over and he's growing up to be really healthy.

What About Family Planning

Who knows if theirs going to be another baby in our family. We both want to wait three or four more years. We're pretty careful with contraception because we don't want another baby right away. That would be hard for me and Jason because we'd be spending twice as much on diapers and everything else. It would make everything hard, for instance make it harder for my mom to take care of two kids while I'm in school. I think that waiting for about three or more years make me more confident and happier. I don't have to worry too much about Jacob and another child of mines.

Playing Means Learning

Jacob started to learn a lot of things from birth to three months, because his brain is developing so fast. It's amazing how some kids can learn so much at the age of one if you teach them well enough to have them remember it until their older. I would always talk to Jacob. I don't really understand him that well yet, but I know I will sooner or later. That's why I'm reading to him, and doing rhythmic things with him, doing then over and over, because that's how he learns. I want him to be smart and understand things quicker.

He Loves Being Close to Me

He loves it when I hold him near my chest, so that he feels warm and comfortable. For some reason he always cries when I try to rock him or lye him down in his cradle. To me, he's sort of different because he's not like other baby's who love to sleep a lot and lye in their own bed's. He loves it when someone is their to watch him bite and play with his hands. It seems to me that Jacob loves when he has every one's full attention, so therefore he knows were not ignoring what he's up to and that we keep an eye on him. It's cute that he does these things, because it tells me that he really needs me there with him.

How Is He Changing

Jacob is very smart and intelligent in his own little way. Its surprising how he's learning very quickly. Every time I'm sad or mad at something, Jacob would always know. Its like he could read my face reaction and mind. I'm the kind of person who doesn't get mad easily, it takes a lot to make me angry. As a mother it's really exciting to see how your child changes over time. For example, He loves to smile whenever I'm around or whenever I would make a funny face at him. His favorite thing to do are taking a bath and when someone plays with his foot. It makes him laugh so hard that he tends to squeak out loud when someone tickles his foot very softly.

Food Along With Love

I breastfeed Jacob until he was three weeks, it was an off and on thing for him, because I was so weak and had to take all kinds of medication the doctor had told me to stop breastfeeding for two whole days. It was hard for me because I enjoyed breastfeeding Jacob whenever he was hungry and now they told me I Can't anymore. That really made me upset having to stop. I wish I would've went longer breastfeeding him, it would've made me closer to him as his mom. I know that Jacob is a strong, Healthy baby boy, I don't doubt anything about him, he's handsome and very smart in everything he does. As he's still getting bigger and bigger he will become a very intelligent young man.

I Get Frustrated Sometimes

Last night Jacob was really fussy. Sometimes I wish I could just get up and leave because I'm so tired of not being able to do whatever I want. On the other side I'm trying so hard to stop these bad thoughts and feelings, but I can't help it. I just wonder, are they wrong? Am I a horrible mom to Jacob for thinking like that? I just cross my fingers and hope it's not true. I love Jacob and I would be there for him whenever he needs me.

Important Note

Sometimes I do everything I can to help Jacob be comfortable, and he'll still cry. I would always remember he's not crying to upset me or his dad. He isn't crying because it's the only way she can tell you that she needs your comfort. Sometimes playing with him or taking him outside will help calm him down from crying. He would also stop crying if he sees colorful things that stands out to him. Jacob loves to see all sorts of different things that attracts his attention. A ride in the car (safely secured in his car seat) always helps Jacob to stop crying and take a long nap.

Your Baby's First Year

I'm finally starting on a new book called " Your Baby's First Year". This book really helped me to be a good mom to Jacob because it helps me answer questions I have as a parent. It talks about the "beginning life with your child". I'm very glad that I'm reading this book because I get the chance and the best opportunity to read and explore what other new mothers face through their entire life or until their child has grown up to be the age of eighteen. I think that its really a great thing to know what parents or couples go through to raise the perfect child. As I go further on reading this book I hope to learn more about mother hood.

Taking Your Child to Daycare

I'm really against taking children to daycare, because it's very dangerous taking your kids to someone they don't even know. It's also hard because if I were to take my son their, I would feel like a bad mother doing such thing. Daycare programs are not to be trusted because you don't know what they abilities are and what they are capable of. It's much easier taking your child to one of your family members or to someone who you truly trust would watch your son, feed him/her, change their diapers, and play with them when they are lonely and need some company.

Time Out May Help

As Jacob is still getting to that age limit, where he starts to become a big boy. It starts to get harder and harder, because you would have to put up with what he wants and how his manners would be like. In my mind I know that if Jacob is misbehaving others I would put him in (time out) so therefore he understands not to disrespect others all around him. I think that it's better to put your child on (time out) then having to spank him or discipline him for what he had done. I know that it's crazy sometimes having to deal with your child, but it's not the child's fault that their here, its yours because you wanted him, so now you have to care for them and do the best in your ability to watch over them and also love them like your parents loved you when you were just a child.

Communication and Respect

I think that some parents should try and have a good relationship with their kids. It's really helpful because when your child is going through a lot of stress or any big problems, they would always come to their parent first before anyone else. Its better that way because you both get to have that wonderful bond with one another. It's also easier that your child tells you the parent, everything. To me I think it's so great that your kid gets to come straight to the parent when they have struggles and bad situations going on in their teenage lives.

When Too Much Goes Wrong

Sometimes in my life I'm always exhausted from all the hard work that goes on in my life. I don't really show it, but inside I'm Screaming. I just want to run away from everything, from all the problems, but I can't do that because I have Jacob to take care. He has nothing to do with my problems. I have to learn how to cope with the stress going on in my body. I think that most teen parents take their frustrations out on their kids, and to me I don't think that's right. I try my best to keep my cool and ignore the stress. I don't want to abandon my son and worry about other unimportant things.

Father-Child Time

When my boyfriend comes over from his house, he tries to have his time with Jacob as much as possible. Most of the time he's busy with school or church. But Jason Knows that he has to spend some quality time with Jacob so he knows that his father is always there and he cares for him. Having his dad come over and visit him most of the time is important. I can tell that Jacob loves his dad because he's always smiling at him every time he looks at him. Daddy is his everything. However most children look forward into spending plenty of time with there mother or father. When it does happen, a bond develops between mom/dad and child that brings pleasure to both.

If Mom and Dad Live Together

Jason and I would sometimes argue and we'd yell. Jacob was always there, seeing hearing us argue, and it wasn't healthy for him. He would stare at us while were arguing and just cries a lot because of all the violent going on. I would tell Jason that we have to argue some place else where our son isn't present during the whole scene, because when Jacob grows up he will talk, walk, and act violent just like we did when he was just a baby boy. We as parents need to set good and healthy examples to our kids, so they grow up with respect and good manners for others. I learned from my mistakes and I know not to yell, scream, curse and set bad examples when my child is in the room.

Your Self Confidence Is Important

Sometimes discipline is not the best choice. You as a parent need to have confidence in your ability as their guardian. Remember that your in charge no one else can take that away from you. A parent who believes that their child is deliberately naughty needs to look at what has gone with their child. Don't avoid it or ignore the issue, try and do something to help the problem. Spanking doesn't work. Forcing your child submit to their wishes through fear and punishment will only lead to a need for more punishment and a lot of less trust between you and your child.

Parenting Is Stressful

This isn't what I expected-going to school when I have a baby. I wanted to be the at-home mom. It's hard doing two different/separate things going back and fourth all the time. I think when babies are raised where the mom is there all the time, they're more secure. It takes putting your life on hold for awhile, like going out and partying with your friends and spending time at friends houses. A lot of us didn't have good nurturing parents, and it's hard to be nurturing when you weren't given the nurturing. That's why I'm just so thankful that I have parent's that truly love me for who I'am and had taken care of me since birth.

Focus on Mom and Dad

It's hard being a mother. I can't do a lot of things I want to do because I have to take care of Jacob. To me it's hard raising kids. I thought it would be easy, but I guess I was wrong. Sometimes it's really frustrating for me to come to school most of the time, because most times my mom has other things to do, like take care of my dad and make sure he's doing good. I fear that I don't spend as much time with my son. I know that school is hard, but I'm always pushing myself to the edges to get things done, so I could always be their for Jacob when he needs me.

Teaching Your Child to Avoid Violence

How will I teach Jacob to be street-wise? I'd tell him, if he has a problem and he doesn't know anything about those people, just walk away. Just be a bigger man and walk away from it because you don't know what kind of people he would be dealing with. They could all be really crazy, and that could be the end of you. I'm worried for males because they think they have to stand up to people, not look like a sissy or a punk. I would tell my son it's not worth losing his life over, or ending up being in jail. It's better to ignore the violence and leave it all behind.

Don't Rush Toilet Teaching

I will be showing Jacob to go potty training as soon as he turns three, because teaching him early is better for him. Therefore he knows how to go use the restroom on his own. I think that when a child turns three or four it's good to start helping them potty train. Having them wear diapers until there five or six isn't right, because once when they reach that age limit it would be harder for them to go to the restroom on daily basis. It won't catch their mind's as quick as teaching a three or four year old. I know that Jacob will be able to learn quick, I have no doubt that he won't. I believe in him one hundred percent that he can do anything, certainly because he's such a smart baby.

Making Time For Your Child

I know that most of the time throughout the weeks I'm always busy. Whether I'm at school or at work, it doesn't really give me enough time with Jacob. But it doesn't mean that I can't cut my hours down and spend my time with him instead. I love him very much and I would do anything to have my full time and attention towards him. I don't want him to think that I don't care for him or even love him just a tiny bit. It's just that I'm trying to finish school, go to a community college and then find myself a good career that will help me pay off my rents when I get my own apartment.

Who's in Charge

I'm Jacob's mom, so I should be the one to stand up to him and tell him whats right. If someone were to hit my son, I would really have a problem towards that person because that's my son were talking about, not theirs. I'm the only one who's in charge of him (no one else) I'm the one that would be right by his shoulder helping and protecting him from world violence. As a mother I'm going to do my best in my ability to help my son stay out of big troubles that all teenagers face in today's lifetime.

Yelling, Spanking Don't Help

Yelling at your child really hurts their feelings, especially if they are really young. Its just like your abusing them in any other way. Just remember that they are "small people" its better to treat them polite them just stand there and hit them, yell at them. Its just going to frighten them and make them not to listen to the second time around. No one should ever abuse there child physically that causes them not to behave and it makes them go wild on us. Parenting isn't easy, but your there guardian show them whats right and whats wrong and maybe they will understand you more. Show them good intentions and they will show it right back to you.

Saying bad Words

I don't think that my son would ever be cursing at me or anyone that's not me. That's just really disrespectful, my son is going to grow up and have good manners and goals set for him self as a child. He won't grow up to be a bad boy or a street gangster like everyone else (no offense) to anyone that is a gangster and was brought up as one. I find it really difficult and disturbing when a two or three year old child knows bad words. It makes me feel like his or her parents didn't teach then well enough to understand what "Respect" truly is. I know for parents, sometimes not cursing is hard, but we have to get it through our adult minds that we have kids that are following after our footsteps and we are the ones responsible for setting good examples for them.

If He Hits Mommy Or Daddy

When Jacob turns one and he were to hit mommy, I would be very upset and I would send him to sit on "Time Out" until he learns his lesson not to hit me or other people around him. I think that its good to teach him good lessons because once when hes getting older and you haven't taught him a thing, hes just going to ignore you and do what ever he prefers on his own. My job as a mother is to set priorities for my son so that he doesn't treat others with disrespect and with a bad attitude. That's just not going to happen around me. Being a mother is very hard, but every mother has her own wants and needs and those are some of my needs that I want from my son. To be respectful, listen, loving, a non-violence child, and attends school.

Setting Boundaries

Jacob is still young, but he is sure growing up so quickly. It feels like I just gave birth to him. As Jacob continues to keep getting older and older I want to set boundaries for him, so that he doesn't get of hand. I don't want him to grow up and do what ever he prefers. I want him to listen and do the right things. Letting my son doing what he pleases isn't right because that shows that you don't care very much for their health and what they should be doing. For instance, having him go to school and getting help from teachers and getting his education like the rest of the other kids. It's not fair to my child if I don't put my attention into what hes doing.

Constant Supervision Needed

Being a mother is hard sometimes because of all the other things going on. But it doesn't mean you can't take time out to enjoy you child's needs. When Jacob turns two I'm the one that's always going to guide, protect and watch over him where ever he goes. Even if I take him to the store, parks, movies, and even the carnival. I don't ever want him to leave my side because it worries me too much when hes out of my sight. I think that its better for me watching him and enjoying my motherhood with him. Especially because I want to be the greatest mother ever to my child. I want Jacob to grow up and understand that I care for him and love him truly. I don't want him to not know his mommy and daddy like other teenagers out there. Its hard not having parents because theirs no one to take care of then and tell them whats right from wrong.

Play with Him Regularly

I spend most of my time playing with Jacob. Letting him know I really do enjoy his company. Doing this it provides good connection and insurance against future discipline problems. I always love playing with my son. He gives me joy everyday I wake up and I make him smile every second, minute and hour of the day. He loves when I take pictures of him while hes eating. He never cries when I hold him in my arms, talking with him and telling him how great my life is having him and how he was the biggest blessing that ever happened to me.

Problem

When Jacob is really hungry he would just cry really loud so therefore I would know that he's hungry or he needs a diaper change from mommy. When I'm carrying Jacob he tends to cry often because he wants to be carried and not left alone. As for me being his mom, I do my best to make him happy and cheerful. My son also has problem sleeping at night because as young as he is he mixes up his days and nights. When I seen this happening I tried my best to change it around, but sometimes its really hard for me because I'm always at school most of the day and the only days I have to keep him up all day is on Friday and on the weekends. Its really crazy because I really don't want him to sleep in the morning and then stay awake all through the night. It doesn't give me enough time sleep and it keeps me up all night, so when I come to school I'm sleeping in my classes instead of doing my work. It drives me nuts.

He Learns by Exploring

Taking care of my son becomes a little more complicating throughout his two and half month of age. Gradually my son is becoming more and more secure in his own baby life, I would always satisfy most of his needs for example, when he cries I would do my best to figure out why hes crying. Weather it is changing his diapers, giving him his food, warmth, cleanliness and companionship. Hes always learning new things everyday. Throughout the weekdays and weekends I would always take all my time and effort into spending quality time with my son. When ever hes sleeping I'm always there by his side. I never want to leave his bed side because I want him to wake up and see who his mother is, and know how much I truly love having him as a part of my life.